Tuesday, November 19, 2013


After yesterday's "old school blogging" survey revealed I was no longer dating "the guy", I've had lots of people ask me what happened.  Since I tend to over share things here, I figure I'll continue the trend and tell you all about it.  Well, some of it.  I'll call it "being transparent" because that sounds better, right?

At the end of August, a mutual friend set me up with "the guy" (who I shall refer to as simply Guy - which is not his real name, but I'll refrain from telling you that).  We went on a bunch of dates the first few weeks, including dinners out, dinners in, and even a Hersheypark trip. We texted and talked constantly.  But - then life started to get in the way.  Guy works night shift...midnight to 8am.  And then he coached from 3pm-5pm.  Between his work and coaching schedules, and my work and training schedules - our schedules were completely opposite, which made seeing each other difficult.

After a few weeks, this caught up to us and we'd go 2 weeks without seeing each other. Plus, if I'm being honest, I don't think Guy was making me a priority in his life. The more I thought about, the more I prayed about it, the more I talked about it, the more I realized that I didn't really want to make him a priority either.

He is a nice guy, he's got a lot of great qualities, and I harbor no bitterness towards him.  Really, it just didn't work out - and that's okay!

One of my favorite songs for the past year has been "Second Chance" by Rend Collective Experiment.  When I started dating Guy, I played this song on repeat again - thank God for this second chance. When things were over with us, I was sad because I thought "every time I hear that song now I'm going to think about him" - I thought he was THE second chance.

But then, I was listening to the song again and was reminded that it doesn't say "one second chance" - it says "COUNTLESS second chances".  Just because this guy wasn't THE guy doesn't mean there isn't still THE guy out there.  God is a God of second chances...and third...and fourth...and COUNTLESS chances - and I trust Him!

"Oh Your cross, it changes everything
There my world begins again with You
Oh Your cross, it's where my hope restarts
A second chance is Heaven's heart"

1 comment:

  1. Awe! so glad you wrote this post, but I'm super sad that it didn't work. On the flip side, I'm glad it was sort of mutual and no one got hurt. Here's to praying that the next Guy is "The Guy"!!