For example, on the 24th of February - the 4 year anniversary of Isaac's death - I held it together and felt good all day. I ate healthy, I was pleasant at work, and I even worked out. Then I came home from my workout, curled up on my couch and ate pancakes for dinner. I cut myself some slack. I abandoned my healthy dinner and let myself feel the sadness and eat the carbs!
Yesterday and today, I've been fighting sort of a cold. It's not even affecting me enough to call it an actual "cold", but it has me feeling pretty tired. So yesterday, I stayed in my PJs until almost 6pm and took a 2nd workout rest day for the week. Today, instead of my planned boot camp workout - I went to yoga and downward dogged my way to bliss.
Sometimes I think we need to cut ourselves some slack. I ran 12 awesome miles on Saturday - so taking an extra rest day because I didn't feel well isn't being weak or backing down. It's being smart. It's listening to my body. It's giving myself a little grace.
Yes there are times when we need to fight - we need to eat the salad when we want the donut or run the miles when we want the couch.
But sometimes, it's important to realize that you are enough. That if the dishes don't get done, or you miss 1 workout, or you eat 1 donut, or you take an afternoon nap instead of doing work - sometimes you're happier for those choices.
So cut yourself some slack. Work hard - but take rest when it's needed!