Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Dear Friends

A funny thing happens when you lose weight. People say things to you like "You're wasting away". They point out everything you eat. They question why you think you need to lose 15 more pounds.

But you know what -- no one ever does that when you're fat. No one says "Are you sure you want to eat that 2nd donut?" when you're fat, but you'd better believe they'll say "Why aren't you eating a donut? Just 1 won't hurt."

I've had this discussion with a few friends who have also lost weight and we all say the same thing: we wish someone had said something. So, if you're struggling with weight -- this is me saying something.

Dear friend, 

First let me start with this: you are fabulous. You are beautiful. I bet you are also kind and hard working, and probably funny, too. I'm sure that you love your friends and family, and that you do everything you can to take care of them. But, I have a question for you: are you happy? I mean really, truly, with everything you've got, bursting at the seems, joy-filled, HAPPY?

Can we just be honest for a minute? Can we be real about this question? Because if we're being truly honest about it...can I be so bold as to might not be?

Think about the last time you visited an amusement park. Did you approach the rides with dread, perhaps with that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, because you weren't sure the lap belt was going to fit? Or maybe you haven't even taken your family to an amusement park in years because you want to spare yourself the embarrassment.

Think about the last time you went shopping. Did you settle for whatever fit? Or end up putting every last item back on the rack because...nothing fit?

Do you hate summer because you sweat with even the smallest amount of physical activity? Do you get winded walking up just a few stairs? Do you fold your clothes carefully so that no one sees the size they are? Do you cringe when someone hugs your or touches you? Do you squeeze down the airplane aisle while avoiding eye contact because you're sure everyone is hoping the "big girl" doesn't sit next them? Do you make up reasons to say "no" to plans that involve too much physical activity?

These things are all things I experienced at 250 pounds. But life doesn't have to be like that. I'm not going to tell you that at 165 pounds, everything is just grand. It's not. But really -- it's a whole lot better than it was at 250 pounds. I can say yes to so many more things. Jesus said he came to give us life in ABUNDANCE. One of the main sources of abundance in my life at 250 pounds was the amount of food I ate.

I've been there. I promise you, I get what you're feeling and I know it's scary to take the first step to getting healthier. But you deserve it!! Don't choose a life of "just getting by" when you can have better. Do the hard thing. Find a support system, pray about it, do some research and reading, involve your family. TAKE ACTION!

You're worth it.


  1. Beautiful post from a beautiful soul :)

  2. Thank you for sharing, Jess! Your honesty is refreshing and needs to be heard!